31.4.1 GOOD TREATMENT OF PARENTS, birr al waalidayn:
The Qur'an has in many verses enjoined good treatment of parents.
Good treatment of parents is one of the most loved work to Allah, is a reason for entering heaven, and has great rewards.
Good treatment covers both the father and the mother. The mother has preference in companionship. Birr al walidayn includes
doing good for them, honoring them, praying for them, and extending the good treatment to their friends. The friends must
be respected during the life and after the death of the parents.
31.4.2 DUTIES TO PARENTS:
Parents must be respected and never shown any contempt whatever
their behavior. Each spouse should show consideration to the parents of the other spouse like his or her own parents. Talking
to parents must be polite without raising the voice. Righteous parents should be followed. Parents must be obeyed as long
as they do not order committing a sin. Their reputation and wealth must be kept. Attempts must be made to do what pleases
them. They must be consulted in all matters and apologies must be offered them if for some reason their advice cannot be followed.
There must be an immediate response when parents call. Kindness and generosity to parents in their senility and weakness is
only a partial repayment of their efforts when the children were young. Gratitude for the parents' suffering and sacrifices
must be shown. Their friends must be treated with generosity. The following are done for them: standing up to greet them,
kissing their head, helping them with their work, and visiting frequently.
31.4.3 MISTREATMENT OF PARENTS, uquuq al walidayn:.
Parents cannot be abused, insulted, or cursed. Cursing or mistreating
parents is considered one of the major sins and leads to severe punishment. Allah responds to parents' dua against their children.
The voice should not be raised in the presence of parents. Parents must always be told the truth and no lies should ever be
told to them whatever the excuse. The grandchildren and spouses cannot be preferred above parents in any situation. Generosity
must be extended to parents; miserliness to them should be avoided. Parents of others should never be mistreated or insulted.
They may insult your parents as a return and you will have caused injury to your own parents.
31.4.4 BIRR AL ARHAAM:
The near kindred are described in the sunnat. The Qur’an enjoins good treatment of the near kindred.
This includes feeding them, giving them financial support, , joining kindred relations, and loving them. They have definite
rights that should not be violated and these include rights of inheritance as enunciated in the law of inheritance. There
is great reward for joining kindred relations. A person is rewarded for good companionship with relations. It is sin to cut
off kindred relations. Doing good for relations is expiation from sins. Kindred relations are more deserving of charity. It
is duty to call the kindred relations to Islam. However love for kindred relations should not stand in the way of establishing
31.4.5 RELATIONS AS SOCIAL INSURANCE:
Islam teaches joining kindred relations and castigates cutting them off. The extended family is supposed
to be an association for mutual material and psychological support. Good relations within this association ensure that help
will be available at the time of need.